What I’ve learned from the relationship | Medium
Time flies. It’s cliche but it’s really what I feel. Mike and I have just celebrated our second anniversary. In this article, I would like to share what I learned from my best partner in crime these days.
When you’re in a good relationship, you learn things. — Allison Renner
How did we meet?
Sounds funny. We met each other since we both grew up in a small city. In other words, we have many mutual friends. His flatmate in the university is my junior high school friend; my high school friend is his junior high school friend; his high school best friend is my elementary school mate etc.
We met each other in 2018 due to one essay in class: Experimental school experience and reflection. It seems very nerdy, but that’s the point that lit up our serendipity.
At the end of 2018, I felt depressed for a long while due to the death of my beloved family and the pressure of double majors final exams. He was the one who gave me mental support when I was in a dump. I would not say it was only a coincidence. The emotional quality he inherent is much higher than mine. Anyway, our journey started on a cozy night without any star.
Self-disciplined
The most frequent meeting points for us are not a movie theater, not a shopping mall, the cafeteria on campus, but the LIBRARY.
It’s hard to count on how much time we spent together was in the library. (audacious infer: 50% or above) Our sophomore years were unique. I’m doubly major in Education and English, while he’s doubly major in Electrical Engineering and Finance. In a nutshell, we invest our time into academic performance since both of us prefer the higher GPA.
In the field of time management, I would say my ranking is above average. In contrast with Mike, I am left behind. The average studying time for him is 8 hours per day, besides, the velocity and efficiency of adsorbing knowledge of him is far beyond the townspeople.
Target-oriented
He graduated from the best high school in our city, then entered into the Department of Electrical Engineering. When we were in sophomore year, he had been interviewed by the international investment bank. (though got rejected lol) I still remember that night we sat in front of the library near coconut avenue.
“What’s your plan after graduation?” I frowned and hesitated to reply. Not planning to be a teacher or a translator in a moment, the future seems bleak or at least blur from the College of Arts.
At that time, I have no idea what kind of global company I can get in, or which role I can play well in the industry, while he stands at the opposite spectrum.
Ray asked how my feeling about dating Mike is. I’ve admitted that it’s hard from being pressure when your boyfriend will graduate from the best university in the country and promising future.
It seems like he’s so-called the whole package. Had intern experience from the top global company; graduated from promising departments, etc. But I’m the only one knowing that he pays how much effort in those achievements.
Those precious time we waste on social, sleep, watching Netflix, is the time they get an offer from Ivy League or FANNG. They set the goal early than their peers, and easily receive the resource from the environment. I do like the metaphor that townspeople climbed the stairs exhaustively, while the other stepped on the electrical one effortlessly.
Last lesson from Mike is his emotional homeostasis.
Compared to him, I’m emotional and usually controlled by the drives. One day, I had a fight with my roommates, and I was VERY agony at that time. I still remember that he gently console my rage, meanwhile astonished how can he inherited EQ ingrained.
He seldom complained of tiny little trivia, but focus on the right thing to do. I believe that is the reason why he stands first on the list.
I appreciate that encounter such a fantastic partner in my 20s. The lesson he taught me is priceless and worthwhile to be kept in mind. 🏜
